tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3742404350780848936.post1398397392584483809..comments2018-06-07T00:15:48.481-07:00Comments on Jessie's Daily Pennings: Day 71: Masking and warmthJessiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00878793880731453949noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3742404350780848936.post-19587248410796882812014-03-23T20:16:04.630-07:002014-03-23T20:16:04.630-07:00Angela, you're absolutely right. Thanks for yo...Angela, you're absolutely right. Thanks for your words :) I have become a little bit obsessed recently with heightened awareness of how my actions and speech affect others, but I'm starting to realise that warmth and kindness can't be forced, only cultivated and nurtured. And that I need to exercise more self-compassion and mindfulness when I feel like I'm not meeting my ideals. At the same time, it seems that some basic masking is probably required when working with a team, for the sake of the atmosphere and relationships of the team. I don't have to pretend to convey warmth per se when I'm actually frustrated at someone, but I can do my best to avoid expressing actual hostility (e.g. eye-rolling, eyebrow-raising, terse language), which would only be harmful, and perhaps just remain neutral and equanimous. The middle path, I suppose. From a leadership perspective, I do wonder if a team leader has the responsibility of energising their team though, since energy is contagious and there is something to be said for faking it till you make it. Hmm...Jessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00878793880731453949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3742404350780848936.post-58715579883755552462014-03-23T17:12:06.888-07:002014-03-23T17:12:06.888-07:00Still gobbling up your blogs like food for my soul...Still gobbling up your blogs like food for my soul. :) Jessie, I love the idea of loving kindness. :) It seems like you might be taking things to a bit of an extreme when you are having to mask your own true reactions to things. Authenticity and being able to react quickly and honestly to a behaviour you do not appreciate while still believing the best in a person, to me, would be the best form of loving kindness! You do not have to become a bubbly, fake person. I am glad you are transparent as this is the best form of authenticity. :) Cheers!Angela Loucks Alexanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02885027810824007357noreply@blogger.com